I love teaching Hypnobabies, it is really one of the most rewarding things that I do. While our couples are going through the childbirth class, the topic of having a doula often comes up.
For those of you who are unfamiliar with what a doula is, let me clarify:
Webster’s Defines A Doula As:
“a woman experienced in childbirth who provides advice, information, emotional support, and physical comfort to a mother before, during, and just after childbirth”
- A mom using Hypnobabies will probably remain calm and focused for most, if not all, of her birth. I have had many moms show up at the hospital at 8 or 9 cm and have the nursing staff believe that they were still in their early birthing time (around 3-4 cm). This is amazing!! For the untrained eye, or a non hypno-doula, they may mistake a mother’s calmness and focus just like the nurses do…thinking it is only early birth and assume there is no need to rush or head to the hospital. I had one mom accidentally have her baby at home because when she informed her doula that she felt it was time to head to the hospital, her Doula told her she was no where near having a baby and to relax on her bed, 15 minutes later this mom had her baby in her hands.
- Secondly, a doula who is unfamiliar with how powerful her words are, and the effect they have on a mom in hypnosis, can say the wrong thing and cause some unintended consequences. I had another mom tell me that her doula kept telling her that “I know this is painful but you can do it” or “I know it hurts, and you can just embrace that pain and move forward.” Well, throughout her entire Hypnobabies class she had retrained her subconscious mind to only expect discomfort, not pain. She told me that these pain focused comments were incredibly distracting, and the more the doula talked about pain, the more she felt “pain.” This mom eventually had to ask her doula to leave the room.
Now, I am not saying that you can’t have a fantastic doula who is not a hypno-doula, it just increases the odds that your doula will be exactly what you need if she has this extra skill. Another benefit to a hypno-doula is that she understand hypnosis. Even if a couple is not using hypnosis for childbirth, the hypnotic techniques your doula uses can help any birthing mother become more calm, focused, and relaxed. Every mother using Hypnobabies or not, is in a state of hypnosis during birth. Birthing mothers are open to all suggestions given to them; why not make those suggestions positive and empowering, instead of fear inducing.
Now, if a hypno-doula is your tutor, let me add one other option. Imagine now that you are taking that same test, but instead of having a tutor, you get to have the teacher help you take the test. Your teacher is there to give you the answers and suggestions to help you have the best test you can have.
This teacher, during your birth, would be your Hypnobabies instructor. She knows the subject better than anyone, and she also knows exactly how to respond to each situation to help you have the best birth possible. Many of the Hypnobabies instructors are also doulas for their students. This is one of the best things you can do in addition to taking Hypnobabies to have a great birth, and, if your instructor is not a doula, I know she can refer you to one who is.
With my second birth, I had 2 doulas. A hypno-doula and my Hypnobabies instructor, (and yes, my husband had plenty to do and never felt like his role was taken over). It was so empowering to know that when I, or my husband, needed the extra hypno-support, it was there. My birth was so empowering, not just for me but for my husband as well. He told me afterwards that it was so nice to have another set of hands and eyes to assist him during the birth.
So, if you are considering having a doula present at your birth, Hypnobabies or not, look into the option of having a hypno-doula present.
For more information on our private in-home Hypnobabies classes please see our Hypnobabies page.
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